A real person, a lot like you
Derek Sivers3 HN recommenders · 2011–2013
467K views · talk · evergreen · Uploaded 2011-07-07
A three-minute video from Derek Sivers, based on his book Anything You Want, about remembering that the people you deal with online are real people. It contrasts how we treat people face to face with how we treat them online.
Recommended in threads about online hostility as a short reminder to treat strangers as human beings.
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4 comments from Hacker News
Hiya Slowpoke. You seem to be new to HN. That's cool. We're very much unlike some other Internet communities which you've spent time on. In particular, we place a wee bit of emphasis on treating people like they are people, even when interacting with them over HTTP. My name is Patrick. Pleased to meet you. I run a business which helps teach little kids to read, and spend a lot of time on HN as my hobby. A lot of HNers know me, have spoken to me, or have shaken my hand in person, because I'm a fairly personable guy. Most do not say "Hello Patrick, pleased to meet you, I don't give half a fuck whether you starve to death." That would be a wee bit uncouth. We have guidelines here for the community's consensus on talking to each other: [LINK] I'd also like to leave you with a video from Derek Sivers, who also happens to be a HNer. I think the lesson is rather important. [VIDEO]
Feedback is awesome. But, I guess you could've reduced a bit of causticness in it. This is the video, I want everyone on internet to watch - "A real person, a lot like you" - [VIDEO] PS/Disclaimer: Not directly affiliated to them. Founders are my friends!
Just saw a video about something similar about how we normally talk to a real person compared to someone online. [VIDEO]
Derek Sivers makes a somewhat more extensive comment on the same point in "Anything You Want". There's a nice three-and-a-half-minute video based on it [1]. [1] [VIDEO]